Before Mr. Smith and I got married, I dated someone who was the epitome of the Looks-Good-On-Paper-Guy. You know what I mean:
It figures because we met on Tinder. Ugh.
We seemed to really hit it off at first but when I dug a little deeper, he revealed himself to be a bit too critical and self-centered for my tastes. Don’t get me wrong, I like a guy who expresses his thoughts. But this was more of an inability to do anything other than criticize and feel sad afterward.
One of the things that really clued me into his nature was taking a look at his LinkedIn profile. I know this is borderline creeper-status but he piqued my curiosity when he would tell me multiple stories about experiences he had at work and every story seemed to be at a different workplace.
So I looked him up on LinkedIn and there it was: a long list of past jobs for short periods of time. Some might have been a year but most others were even less.
This is when I realized this guy’s work life mirrored his love life. He’s never been in a serious, long term relationship and he’s never been able to last in one workplace for very long either.
I took his personality cues and surmised this to mean that my hunch had been true all along. It seemed obvious now that he often played the victim and felt like he was better than everyone else.
I thought this was really interesting and revelatory. I took the same lens and looked at some other past relationships and saw that LinkedIn was quite astute at revealing character in people, not just at work but in love.